How We Lose Vital Life-Force Energy

Feeling drained is often a symptom of losing life-force energy to unconscious thoughts and behaviours that chip away at our health and wellbeing.

Life is all about energy. The abundance of it we feel when we are children. We live in the moment. Our mind is not in constant chatter or analytical mode. As we age and the negative beliefs and patterns begin to form our existence and take hold, we may start to feel weighed down as our life-force energy is drained.

Even if we’re people who believe there’s no good or bad, simply lessons we must learn, recognizing and putting a stop to how we may be losing energy will help us stay healthy and rebound faster from any life challenges.

Some common ways people lose energy are:

1) Saying YES when we really want or should say NO

·In life there are some things we must do. However, when we have a choice and we choose to say "yes" to something that’s not in our best interest, we will often feel immediate remorse or slightly unwell. This lowers our energy level.

If we keep undermining and sabotaging ourself, patterns will repeat until we come to the realization we’re compromising our wellness.

• Learn how to say NO. Start by saying NO to small things and acknowledge how this empowers. Eventually, we’re able to build up this power and will exercise it in our everyday life, and when making significant choices in life.

• Becoming conscious and present lets us pause for a moment before committing to something and sense if we’re making the right choice for our good.

2) Doing too much for others

Doing for others what they can do for themselves is a sure way to become depleted. There’s a fine line between being helpful and being an enabler. As much as there is joy in giving of our time and effort to others, we’ll know we’ve given away too much of our energy when we feel drained after our actions for others.

There has to be balance in the many roles we assume in life. The worker, the parent, the friend, the spouse—all of these—function well when we maintain a healthy balance of give and take.

- Life presents similar scenarios, perhaps different players but perhaps not, until we learn to put our best interest first. Some people do undoubtedly need our assistance, but there are many others appearing unconscious that are there to teach us about boundaries.

• Take time to ponder how your relationships are affecting your energy level and make the changes necessary for a healthier balance. This could mean walking away, shutting doors, not answering calls, or just taking extra time to love yourself more.

• Give others greater opportunity to experience and develop their own power by allowing them to grow and do all they can for themselves.

3) Worrying

Not only is worrying futile because it doesn’t change a thing, it’s wasting energy that could be better used to actually effect favourable outcomes to whatever it is we’re worrying about.

When we worry we’re creating resistance to the flow of life. Worrying can be interpreted as a lack of faith, thus narrows the field of potential and possibilities. Worry drains our energy because it’s energy expended without intention. There is no return on it.

• Rather than feel anxious and worry, send out energies of love and peace to the situation, person, or yourself. Whatever we send out into the world returns. We’ll fare better as recipients of loving energies instead of erratic vibes of uncertainty.

• Offer a prayer and rest assured its intention is enough. Let it go.

4) Harboring low vibration emotions

When we hang on to unpleasant feelings about something, someone, or our own self, we feed emotions that’ll drain rather than energize. If persistent, these emotions spill over into our outlook and will attract much of the same back to us.

• It’s preferable we process all our feelings—yes the bad ones—because if left unchecked there’s risk our life will be shaped by repetitive negative patterns. These persistent patterns remain until we recognize and address their root causes.

• There’s no need to wonder why we have so much in common with the people around us. If we don’t enjoy the company we keep, it’s time to assess what energy underlies our own existence.

5) Being sorry

Whether we are feeling bad or sorry for ourself, someone or something else, it’s an energy drainer because it means we’re not in agreement with the natural process of life. We can’t change the consequences of the law of the universe. We can’t help but lose energy when we’re feeling sorry because it’s of no purpose. It doesn’t elevate, offer relief, or project positive change. It zaps us of our own joy and sends pity to what/who we’re perceiving.

• We need to accept that there are many things out of our control. Life unfolds as it should for all as a result of choices made and much that we know nothing of.

• What we can do for not only our own wellness is let go of the illusion being sorry is an acceptable reaction.

6) Avoidance

· Putting off what we think and say we want or need to do first becomes heavy energy, and then it’s a loss of energy. We’ll be distracted reminding ourself of what it is we wanted to do instead of being fully present. This gnaws at our energy.

How much energy we lose here depends on how long the to-do list is. A potential detriment to our spirit little by little.

When we avoid keeping our words to others and ourself, we become drained because on some level it is a broken promise. We lose energy weighted down with unfulfilled promises making life seem to require more effort, and sets us up for depression.

Most of the time people get overwhelmed after they’ve put off too many little things that have added up to become real problems such as clutter, putting on extra weight, neglected chores, mixed communications, etc. Take the time to maintain a certain order, make healthier choices, have the important discussions, etc.

• Making conscious choices to keep our word, especially to our own self, will help break the energy drain cycle of avoidance.

• Don’t put things off. Be accountable.

7) Gossip

It might seem harmless enough, but it’s actually fuelling the undercurrents of deceit and draining life-force energy.

When we partake in discussing other people and/or their affairs, we’re actually draining our energy because energy follows focus which is no longer on our own self. Keep in mind as well, the subjects will be the recipients of whatever energy is sent their way. We may also be creating undue interference for the people we’re talking about if what we’re saying comes from judgements we have no right to be making.

• Resisting the urge to judge others and their circumstances helps put a stop to gossip.

• If talking about people who aren’t present, let it be of praise or well wishes, so the same energy is returned to you. What goes around comes around.

Staying in harmony with our heart, mind and soul by cultivating a mindset of gratitude and allowing Love to guide us helps us retain our vital life-force energy.